How to Write an Apology Letter to your Spouse

Writing an apology letter to your spouse can be one of the most challenging things anyone can do. The words “I’m sorry” do not come easily. You need guts to apologize, especially for men. But do you know apologizing to your spouse is a sign of maturity, honesty, and love? Mistakes and conflicts in marriage are inevitable—but what determines the outcomes is how we handle the disputes.

Minor mistakes can ruin a marriage if not properly handled, and on the same note, a significant error can strengthen a relationship if properly managed. If you have done a wrong thing to your partner, the only way to resolve the matter is to apologize. You can do this verbally or by writing a letter.

Though most individuals find apologizing tasking, you can make it easier by relying on samples and templates.

How to say sorry (apologize) to your husband or wife

Be sincere

You should only apologize when you’re ready to do so. Your apology shouldn’t seem fake or forced. You need to understand the pain, and sorrow you’ve caused to your partner.

Be specific

From the start of your letter, your spouse should know why you’re apologizing. As you apologize, stick to the matter at hand. Avoid referring to dozens of other mistakes you’ve made in the past.

Take responsibility for your actions

As sincere apology starts by owning your mistakes; acknowledge the fact that you’ve hurt your partner. In your apology, avoid excuses or laying blame on others.

Offer solutions

Besides apologizing, your partner wants to know the plans you have to prevent a recurrence of the mistake in the future. Depending on your mistake, enumerate measure you’ll put in place to prevent a repeat of the error. Additionally, reiterate your commitment to marriage and how you love them.

Sample phrases to express apology

You may decide to apologize by writing an apology letter to your partner or speaking to your partner face to face; in either case, you need the right words to deliver your message.

Consider the following phrase as a sure way to apologize. You need to rephrase these words in your style and tone to imply your honesty and sincerity.

  • I deeply regret hurting you. Words alone can’t express my sincerity. I’ll do all I can to make sure that we resolve this matter.
  • Please forgive me for all the words I’ve never said and the actions I have never done when you needed me at your side.
  • I am sorry for letting you down. I commit to embrace the good in our lives.
  • I’m genuinely sorry for what happened. Though you may not forgive me for my actions, I want you to know that you didn’t deserve what happened, I regret my actions.
  • I’m sorry for not attending your (occasion). Though I gave you enough reasons for not attending, and you understood, my wish was to be at your side in this important event, anyway I’ll do all I can to make up for event soonest.
  • I regret fighting with you on (date). Please forgive me for all I said on that day, I never meant what I said. I treasure your respect and love. I can’t afford to lose you.
  • Please accept my heartfelt apology for hurting your feelings. I was wrong, and I mistreated you.
  • I have no excuse for my actions; I’m sorry for letting you down. Please forgive me for my behavior.
  • I have realized I was foolish to treat you the way I did. I’m blessed to have as a partner in life.
  • I’ve caused a lot of pain for you. I wish there were a way I could erase my actions and words and see the beautiful smile in your face. Please forgive me.

When to apologize

Though at times you may need to allow your partner to calm down, it’s important to apologize immediately you discover you’ve done a wrong thing.

If you choose to wait for ages to apologize, you might forget and result in hurting your spouse more. For an intimate, respectful and lasting relationship, you need to develop a habit of apologizing every time you wrong each other.

When not to apologize

Though apologizing to your spouse is essential for a loving relationship, you need to know when you need not to apologize. These are some instances when you do not need to apologize.

Your opinions

Your spouse shouldn’t make you feel bad by expressing your views. Though your partner might not agree with what you say and believe, they should respect your opinions.

Insignificant mistakes

You need not to apologize for small mistakes that affect no one. If you’ve made some little mistakes that your partner can even notice you should not apologize.

What you’ve not done

If your partner blames you for a wrong you’ve not done; you should not apologize. Besides, don’t keep apologizing for nothing.

Your needs

It’s a fact that not all your needs will not be met in a relationship. In such cases, you need to apologize for expressing your need. You need to talk and reach a compromise.

Been sad

You should not apologize for being sad. Only make sure your emotions do not result in ager or actions that will hurt your partner. On the contrary, they should support you when you’re low.

Your hobbies

In a healthy relationship, you need to support each other and your passions. You should not apologize for taking the time to enjoy your hobbies.

Your nature/personality

Everyone has one more weakness that their spouse don’t love. You should not keep on apologizing for your shortcomings.

Sample apology letter to spouse

Dear June,

Please accept my apologies for my unkind words during the argument we had last night. I didn’t mean what I said. My words were as a result of anger. I’m sorry for hurting your feelings.

When I think of all the happy moments we’ve shared, it makes me sad to see us exchanging bitter words. Though you’re still angry at me, I ask you to forgive me—we can work out this problem and overcome.

Remember the great moments we had last week during our holiday in Europe. I believe we will overcome.

I treasure you more than anything else in this world. I’ll do all I can to make things right.

Once more, I am sorry for hurting you. I look forward to a quick resolution to this issue.

With love,